So I had my whole evening planned out, to include updating my blog, when the phone rang and my older sister called. She never calls. And I mean never. I was worried someone died. Seriously. Nope, no death. Thankfully. We had 2 unexpected deaths over the summer and I am not sure my heart can handle anymore. Anyway, we wound up chatting for 3 hours. 3 hours!! To a sister who doesn't call normally. It was a good conversation. A lot of it was about her recent divorce. Divorce will be another topic of discussion here soon.
But earlier in the day, my eldest child and I were having a conversation about one of her friends and the choices she makes. This young lady is in a masters program, following a dream, when lo and behold enters Prince Charming. You already see where this is going, don't you? Prince Charming and the young lady attend the same school currently except now he wants to move to another school. The young lady is thinking she will forgo her dream and follow his white horse. My daughter and another good friend have advised against this course of action. I concur.
I concur because I was that young lady. I get it. You are soooo in love. He swears you will be able to finish your education wherever you are going and you believe him. He is Prince Charming after all, isn't he? Well, in my case, Prince Charming wasn't who he said he was. I didn't finish my education. Instead I had a baby, no place to live, and a custody fight on my hands. Not pretty.
What I mentioned in my first post applies here...No man is a plan and SAVE some dang money! Oh, yeah, and get a viable skill before you settle down in life. I don't care if my girls go to college. Seriously, I don't. But I do care that they have some type of skill that can carry them along in life should they not make good choices. I will discourage them from chasing Prince Charming to the ends of the earth until they can earn a living for themselves.
I am not a naysayer about marriage. Quite the contrary. I love being married and have been for 17+ years. I don't foresee any "issues" appearing in our union. What I do know will happen someday is that one of us will die. I know, I know, say it ain't so, but that is how life works. If he dies sooner rather than later, then I want to be able to either provide for myself and the kids or to be able to have a job to keep me busy once the kids move on. I am practical in that regard. Life will go on.
So young girlfriend of mine, stay the course. If he loves YOU then you will be able to finish your dream. Don't let the emotions involved cloud your judgement. You are smart. You didn't get to this place by accident.
So that begs the question: Why do we, mainly women, sabotage our futures? We are smart. We should know better. What do you think?
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